Riding in Cars with Boys

Riding in Cars with Boys

YEP, this sums up the trip pretty well.

Many people think I was – AM – crazy to go on a trip with all guys – 4 to be exact. Believe me, I don’t blame them. I also thought I was a little crazy. But when two of your best friends move to a beautiful location like Costa Rica and they convince you to make the trek, WHO AM I TO SAY NO?!

– Disclaimer: I tried to get other girls to join me. NONE could make it. So I said, “HANNAH – JOURNEY ON!”-

But really, the trip was AWESOME. I honestly can’t wait to divulge in how INCREDIBLE Costa Rica is… BUT NO, Costa Rica will wait. This post is dedicated to all those GALS out there who have/will/are considering going on a trip with all guys… oh, just me? .. No, you too! Go for it if you get the chance for an incredible trip, but take this advice with you.


A GIRLS GUIDE TO RIDING IN CARS WITH BOYS 

AKA

A GIRLS GUIDE TO SURVIVING A TRIP WITH ALL GUYS

(NOTE: If you are a boy going on all girl trip – BLESS YOUR SOUL. Cancel trip IMMEDIATELY! If you cannot, just reverse any advice given below.)

  1. You WILL be sitting in the middle of every car ride. Why? Because they are too big to all fit in the back of a Rav4 and because double big boy thighs don’t work well next to each other. SURVIVAL TIP: Become claustrophobic and make them give you the side or front seat every now and then. You will need this for sanity. .. Also remind them deodorant does in fact exist.
  2. No matter how much a girl can eat, most boys CAN and WILL eat more. Don’t try and keep up. It leaves you miserably full.. and then probably stuck in the back middle of a Rav4. No thank you.
  3. Guys engage in interesting and/or WEIRD conversations and actions. No matter how close of friends we are, I decided not chiming into these conversations was the best action. –Yes, us ladies probably have an amazing “Thats what she said” joke playing in our mind — but in most cases, don’t use it. Gotta remind them that a lady is in the house. Disclaimer: sometimes we have to let those jokes slip. It’s okay! Just make sure it is prime time material.
  4. Every day the guys will need guy time. And believe me, you will be aching for a minute of silence. SURVIVAL TIP: Bring a good book and find the most perfect beach or porch swing you have ever seen. Sit and enjoy BLISS while they discuss who knows what..
  5. Unless your guy friend is a lover of photography, as the girl, you automatically take on the role of pictures… and the camera you packed doesn’t help your case. SO being #1 picture taker, guess what – you are taking pictures of just the guys. SURVIVAL TIP: Give the camera to everyone to use OR just get used to solo shots OR get used to less pictures of you. Hey, its the memories that count right? … cue looking at the 12th picture of boy #1, 3 and 4 and only the 2nd of you.
  6. The most important tip, and most fun one: Let go of control and go with the flow. Lets be real, you signed up with a trip with all guys – the trip is going to be spontaneous and a little nuts, but A LOT of fun. Lucky for me, my guys love to plan adventures so I knew I was set for a great time. But it was also the moments, not planned but happened, that were my favorites. Embrace the adventure.

 

Take this advice with you, remember to shave and shower, and you are SET. Crazy as it may seem, I enjoyed every minute spent with those 4 stinky guys — and you will too!

ADVENTURE ON LADIES,

xx

Han

Yet another disclaimer: I would only offer this advice to girls if you are REALLY good friends with the guys. If you are adventuring with total strangers… i’ve got nothing. Power to you girlfriend!

 

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PATIENCE

PATIENCE

Patience. I can hear my friends laughing now as they see that I am writing a post on patience. I’ll be honest – in the beginning, this is one of the fruits of the spirit that I KNEW I needed to work on. So I will go ahead and get it out there. I am an impatient person… and you will see it most clearly when:

  1.  I am HANGRY (hungry/angry) and need food NOW!
  2.  I am over shopping and just want to sit down or do ANYTHING else.
  3.  I am so excited to get somewhere that I don’t have time for you to change outfits or put on make-up, especially when you know I don’t have any on.

See, you get the picture. I am writing a post on patience when, clearly, I am lacking it. But you know what the cool thing is – thankfully, God didn’t see me as a lost cause. He wanted to teach me, and he did it when I wasn’t even aware of it.

I think there are two different kinds of patience: short-term and long-term. Short term is waiting in a long line so you can get an ice-cream cone that you will devour in 5 minutes. Long term… this is where it gets tricky. For me, long term patience is almost like a checklist I can scratch off. Husband – waiting. Ideal job – waiting. My savings account to rise above the negative line – waiting. Purpose in life – WAITING. It’s the big questions in life that keeps us waiting. It makes time seem to stand still and scream at us that we have no idea what we are doing – when a lot of times, we don’t! But guess what – we can learn to be patient. Jesus calls us to. This is what a few of my friends have shown me about patience lately:

I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. – Paul, Philippians 4:12-13

What is my dream of God’s purpose? His purpose is that I depend on Him and on His power now… it is the process, not the end, which is glorifying to God. – Oswald Chambers

We tend to think that if we can land on our perfect purpose for our lives, we will finally be satisfied. Hear me: we have COMPLETE access to joy and purpose right now. Even with no grand vision from God, we have access to our Creator, and he is not hiding happiness from us. He gave it to us in the form of Christ. – Jennie Allen, Restless., pg. 13-14

MANNNN is that life-breathing or what. I realized it the other day, God has been teaching me patience for the last year, but specifically, the last few months. I think if I could summarize what God has been whispering to me, it would be this:

Do not concentrate on what you want, but concentrate on what I want. I want you to live life for TODAY. You have happiness today! Forget about tomorrow, that will come when it comes. Give me glory.  Be intentional today. Work hard today. Pray today. And I will handle your future. Have I not told you “all things work together for the good of those who love me and are called according to my purpose” (Romans 8:28) and “many are the plans of man, but it is the MY purpose that will prevail” (Proverbs 19:21). Hannah, rest in me. Trust me. I will not lead you astray. Remember, I know every hair on your head. In ME, you have life. 

Okay so long summary… I realized that as I was writing God was whispering a lot more than I realized. But I know it to be true. A few months ago I was stressing over work life. I needed money, I wanted a team, and honestly, I needed confidence in my work. But then God started throwing new, fun things at me that I would grab and take off running with. I stopped worrying because I was enjoying each new day. And it was at this point I realized that God was teaching me patience – that when I enjoy His day so much that I forget what I am being patient for, then I am being patient. And guess what – God showed me what He can do when I trust Him by being patient. Our Lord can be trusted, it is only a matter of if we are willing to obey Him while we wait. I don’t want to pretend that I am a patient guru now – no way! I still have my days of doubt. But I know the solutions lie in His word and in prayer. We can live by His word today and by prayer for our future. 

“For if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.” Romans 8:25.

Let me finish this up with a story in the Bible about our technicolor dream-coat man, Joseph. Background info: Joseph had 12 brothers and was the favored son of his father Jacob. His brothers hated this so they sold him into slavery and Jospeh ended up in Potiphar’s house where he prospered UNTIL the horrid wife falsely accused him of rape which he was thrown in prison in Egypt for UNTIL he became the master dream interpreter for the king and was made ruler in all of Egypt (Read Genesis 37-50 for full story). Wahoo! Great ending! Go master dream interpreter Joseph!

Want to know what struck me as amazing? When Joseph was ruler of Egypt, his brothers came to Egypt to ask for food without realizing they were talking to their own brother. After a while, Joseph reveals his identity to them and says this: “Don’t be afraid. Do I act for God? Don’t you see, you planned evil against me but God used those same plans for my good, as you see all around you right now—life for many people.” (Genesis 50:20) 

Joseph trusted the Lord and had patience that his situation would be used for God’s glory. He lived for the today. He interpreted dreams in jail that one day led him to ruling all of Egypt and reuniting with his family. Jennie Allen says it best:

“So much of his [Joseph’s] life was seemingly inconsequential, like scrubbing floors in Potiphar’s house. But to him, scrubbing a floor with excellence mattered to God. Staring at a prison wall for years mattered because it was building the character of a man who would forgive the evil of his brothers and ultimately lead a country out of ruin. …. the most inconspicuous tasks usually are building big things we cannot see yet.”

I want to live like Jospeh. I want to live in excellence today, trust in the Lord for my future, and have patience knowing the Lord’s purpose will prevail in his timing.

“For he has made everything beautiful in it’s time.” -Ecclesiastes 3:11

xx

Han